What is the most important thing for a parent? So that the child is well-fed, well-dressed and healthy. That’s how most parents think. And they are right. These things are undoubtedly important. But some people forget about the importance of communicating with a small person. The need for trusting, warm and open relationships is overlooked. If a child feels unnecessary, he does not have enough mom and dad in his life, then this will definitely affect the person in the future.
Psychologists explain the lack of attention or, conversely, overprotection by psychological trauma. It can be both individual and family. It is quite natural to pass painful attitudes from generation to generation. They become a kind of vicious circle, which is quite difficult to break. The article will consider the period from the Great Patriotic War to the beginning of the 21st century.
The 1st circle of pain. Terrible shocks had to be experienced by all families of the Soviet Union during the Second World War. Many then lost husbands, sons, fathers and brothers. The wives were left alone in a hungry and difficult time. They had to become stronger, tougher, in order to survive on their own and raise children. The upbringing was harsh, there was no way to devote enough time to the child. Therefore, the generation grew up in conditions of lack of love and care.
The 2nd circle of pain. The children grew up and became parents themselves. They began to transfer all the love that they did not receive to their children. Everything that the parents themselves dreamed of, their children more than received. But the guys were growing up. Fathers and mothers began to realize that they could be left without affection again, which means they were lonely. It was possible to bind your loved ones to yourself only with the help of manipulation. The feeling of guilt is firmly entrenched in the minds of the kids. "I’ve put my whole life on you" is a typical phrase of that time.
The 3rd circle. It was possible to leave such parents only either with a scandal or with a burning sense of shame. The fear of becoming the same people is firmly rooted in the imagination of the younger generation. Therefore, they began to give birth much later or completely abandon children. The desire to finally find yourself, to separate psychologically from your parents, does not allow you to pay attention to the new generation. Little people are left to themselves again, communication with loved ones is replaced by gadgets.
And again in a circle. Again, those who have been deprived of love will strangle their loved ones in their arms. And those, in turn, will not want to let anyone near them.
To get out of this vicious circle, you need to stop and just look around. Is everything okay in the family? Do you want to raise your children in a similar spirit? If not, then a psychologist will help you cope with family trauma. The main thing is to decide to break this circle. 카지노사이트 신규 플레이어와 기존 플레이어 모두에게 매력적인 보너스와 프로모션을 제공합니다. 신규 플레이어는 넉넉한 환영 보너스를 즐길 수 있고, 충성도가 높은 플레이어는 주간 또는 월간 프로모션을 활용할 수 있습니다. 이 사이트에는 또한 독점 보너스와 보상을 제공하는 하이 롤러를 위한 VIP 프로그램도 있습니다.